A pleasing personality means a combination of a person’s attitude, behavior & expressions. Developing pleasing personality is an art & one must follow some rules to make a good personality. So what are the pleasing personality qualities or how to create a new personality is a question to face? In this article, I am elaborating on such a question so that you will able to build your own personality.
You will never lose your attractiveness regardless of your age when the path of your personality flows both from your face & your heart. My article let you grab some aspects that affect & let you test your personality. You, yourself can go through these aspects & make positive changes so that you can build a strong personality.
Relationships based on talent alone without personality makes life miserable. Charisma without character or personality is like a good look without goodness. A lasting & winning combination requires both- good personality & charisma. So how you can make changes in your personality? Following are the traits of a personality on which you have to think on & alter them in positive ways.
When people accept additional responsibility they are actually giving themselves a promotion. Responsible behavior is to accept the accountability that represents maturity. Acceptance of responsibility is a reflection of our attitude and the environment we operate in. Most people are quick to take credit for what goes right but very few would readily accept responsibility when things go wrong. A person who does not accept responsibility is not relieved from being responsible. Your objective is to cultivate responsible behavior.
People who don’t accept responsibility shift the blame to their parent’s teachers, God, faith, love, the stars & what not. Responsible behavior should be developed right from childhood. It cannot be taught without a certain degree of obedience.
Ancient Indian wisdom teaches us that our first responsibility is to the community, second to our family and third to ourselves. When this order is reversed a society starts degenerating. Social responsibility ought to be the moral obligation of every citizen. Responsibility and freedom go hand in hand. A sign of good citizen is that he is willing to do something for the society he lives in.
The price of greatness is responsibility – Winston Churchill
Consider others first
To explain this aspect of personality, I will prefer to tell you a story of a little boy.
Once a little boy went to ice-cream parlor & asked the waitress what is the cost of one cup? The waitress replied “ Rs. Five “. Hearing that he started to count the coins he has. Again he called waitress & asked what is the cost of a small cup?. Irritably waitress replied “Rs. Four”. Then the boy said, “ I will have a small cup then “. The waitress provided him a small cup & went away. A little boy finished eating his ice-cream, paid the bill on the counter & went. When the waitress came again to clean the table, what she saw brought tears in her eyes. The little boy had left Rs. One as a tip for her. The boy had consideration for the waitress before ordering his ice-cream cup.
If we all thought as the little boy we would have a great place to live. Show consideration, courtesy, and politeness. Thoughtfulness shows a caring attitude.
Another story. A man died & Yamraj asked him where you want to go? Heaven Or Hell? A man replied, “ Sir, I want to see both before deciding where to go?” Yamraj accepted & took him to Hell first. A man saw a big hall containing a big rectangular table & people are sitting around the table. A lot of food was kept in the center of the table. But people look sad, pale & unhealthy as their hands were tied to a four-foot fork & knives. Nobody in the room was able to eat with that arrangement. Then Yamraj took him to a Heaven. The scene was same here- A big hall, table, food at the center & people’s hand tied with four-foot fork & knives. But astonishingly people seem to be happy joyful & healthy because everyone is feeding the food to the person sat opposite to him & all are enjoying.
This was because they were not thinking of themselves alone, they were thinking win-win. The same is true of our lives.
When we serve our customers, our families, our employer, and employees, we automatically win.
Use your word carefully
Choose what you say rather than say what you choose. That is the difference between wisdom and foolishness. Excessive talking does not mean communication. Talk Less & say more. A fool speaks without thinking a wise man thinks before speaking. Words spoken out of bitterness can cause irreparable damage. The way parents speak to their children in many instances shapes their children’s destiny.
Do not criticize and/or complain
There will be times when you will be criticized, sometimes justly and sometimes unjustly. The greatest people in the world have been criticized. Justified criticism can be very helpful and should be taken positively as feedback. Unjustified criticism is really a compliment in disguise. It is the average person who hates the winner. When people are not successful and have nothing else to talk about, they make you the target. The only way you will never be criticized is if you do nothing say nothing or have nothing. You will end up being a big nothing.
Some people are chronic complainer They complain even if everything goes right. Why complain? Because 50% of the people don’t care if you have got a problem and the other 50% are happy that you have got a problem. What is the point of complaining? Nothing comes out of it.
Always Smile and Always be kind
A smile cost nothing but it creates much. It enriches those who receive it without ruining those who give it. It happens in flash and memory of it may last forever
Cheerfulness flows from goodness. A smile can be fake or genuine. The key is to have a genuine one. It takes more muscle to frown than to smile. It is easier to smile than frown. It improves face value.
Have a positive interpretation of other people’s behavior
By starting with positive assumptions, we have a better chance of building a pleasing personality resulting in a good relationship.
For example- If you are calling somebody & your call is not put through for two successive days, then your thinking will be “ They are avoiding me “ or “ It was his duty to call me back “. This is a negative interpretation. But the actual reasons can be
- They tried but couldn’t get through
- They left a message we couldn’t get
- They may have an emergency
There could be many other reasons like this. It is always better to give him benefit of doubt & starting again with a positive note.
Be a good listener
An open ear is the only believable sign of an open heart.
Listening shows caring. When you show a caring attitude towards a person, the person feels important. When he feels important, he is more motivated and more receptive to your ideas.
In order to be a good listener:
- Encourage the speaker to talk
- Ask questions. It shows your interest
- Do not interrupt in between.
- Do not change the topic.
- Show understanding & respect.
- Pay attention & avoid distraction.
- Be open minded
- Concentrate on the message.
- Listen to the feelings & not just words
Enthusiasm is must
Nothing great is ever achieved without enthusiasm.
Enthusiasm & Success go hand in hand. But enthusiasm comes first. Enthusiasm inspires confidence, raise morale, builds loyalty & is priceless.
Enthusiasm is a habit that can be acquired & practice. Enthusiasm & desire are what change average to excellence.
Water turns into steam with a difference of one degree of temperature but we can move very big machines because of it. That is what enthusiasm helps us to do in our lives.
Support honest and sincere appreciation
The biggest disease today is not leprosy but the feeling of being unwanted.
One of the famous psychologists said “ One of the biggest desire of a human being is being appreciated by someone. The feeling of being unwanted is very, very hurtful “.
Expensive gifts are not real gifts, those are apologies for not able to give enough time to our loved ones. Real gifts are when you give part of yourself.
Sincere appreciation is one of the greatest gifts one can give to another person. It can be a great motivator. In order to increase the effectiveness of the appreciation following points are to be noted:
- It must be specific
- It must be immediate
- It must be sincere
- Do not expect compliments in return.
What to do about mistakes?
When a person goes wrong, make him easy to change and when he is right, make him easy to live with it. This is a good philosophy to live by.
Some people jive & learn to while others live & never learn. Mistakes are to be learned from. The greatest mistake a person can make is to repeat it. When you realize your mistake, it is a good idea to accept the responsibility for it & apologize. Acceptance disarms the other person.
Know the difference between discussion & Arguments
Discuss but don’t argue
The best way to win an argument is to avoid it. An argument is one thing you never win. If you win, you lose & if you lose, you lose. If you win an argument & lose your good job, the customer. Friend or marriage what kind of victory is it?
In an argument, both parties are like to have his last word. The argument is a nothing but a battle of egos and results in yelling on each other. The way a person handles an argument reflects their upbringing.
Remember, people who gossip with you are gossiping about you in your absence. Gossiping & lying are closely related things. Gossip is an art of saying nothing in a way that leaves nothing unsaid.
Someone said it correctly: Small people talk about people, average people talk about things & great people talk about ideas. Avoid taking part in gossiping.
Convert your promises into a commitment
A promise is a statement of intent. A commitment is a promise that is going to be kept, no matter what. Commitment says, “ I am predictable in unpredictable situations or future. Commitment shows in a person’s personality & relationship.
Gratitude is a feeling. It improves our personality. It is a feeling of thankfulness towards others. It reflects in our behavior. Gratitude ought to be our way of life. It is something that we cannot give enough of. It can mean a smile, or a thank you or a word of appreciation.
In a very stormy night, the owner gave shelter to three travelers in his home. They stayed there for three days waiting to storm pass by. Then they take leave except one person who has the courtesy to thank the owner of the house. But the owner said ‘ I didn’t do a thing.”
Likewise, we should not expect gratitude.
You must be dependable and loyal
Ability is important but dependability is essential. An old proverb says an ounce of loyalty is worth more than a pound of cleverness. If you have someone who has all the abilities but he is not dependable then he is of no use to you. Good relationships are hard to find & once developed, should be nurtured.
Be dependable for someone & keep loyalty with him.
Do not bear grudges
Don’t be a garbage collector. When a person refuses to forgive, he is locking doors that someday he might need to open. When we are holding grudges, we are hurting ourselves.
Practice honesty & integrity
Honesty means to be genuine & real. Build a reputation for being trustworthy. Building relationships at home, at work or socially is depended on integrity in you. Not keeping commitments is nothing but dishonest behavior.
Honesty inspires openness, reliability & frankness. It shows respect for oneself & for others.
Sincerity is a matter of intent & it is hard to prove. Asking a friend in trouble “ Is there anything I can do for you?” is only lip service. If you really want to help, think of something appropriate to be done & then do it.
Humility is important
Humility is the foundation of greatness. Sincere humility attracts all. Confidence without humility is arrogance.
Once a horse-rider saw some soldiers are around a log they want to move away. But they were not able to do that. Their chief was standing by was only giving orders to them. The rider asked him why he is not helping them? He said “ I am chief of them. I only give orders.” Hearing that rider himself went to the soldiers & help them to move that log. When a log is moved the rider went away. After he left the chief & his group of soldiers found out that the rider was Gorge Washington.
The message is clear. Success & humility go hand in hand. Simplicity & humility are the two hallmarks of greatness.
Be understanding and kind
Relationships do not come about because people are perfect. They come about because of understanding. There is more gratification in being caring than being a just nice person. A caring attitude builds goodwill, which is the best kind of insurance he has & it costs him nothing. Be sensitive to other people’s feelings.
Practice courtesy daily
Courtesy is nothing but consideration for others. It is the little things that make a big difference. Scatter the seeds of it wherever you can. Some are bound to take a root & elevate you in the eyes of others.
Have a sense of humor
A sense of humor makes a person likable & attractive. Humor may not change the message but it certainly can help to relieve from the pain.
You must show empathy
Empathy alone is a very important characteristic of a positive personality. People with empathy ask themselves “ How would I feel if someone treated me that way?” You might be interested in the difference between Sympathy & Empathy:
- Sympathy is ‘I can understand how you feel”
- Empathy is “ I feel how you feel “
Both are important but Empathy is certainly more important.
So, guys, these are the traits of the human personality, you can improve in. These are collected to build a strong personality, and these are helpful to you throughout your life. Take advantage of this & build your own personality. You can change your line of thinking & create a new personality that will put the finger in the mouth of your friends & family members.
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